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Intimacy, from a Breathworker's Perspective

Greetings and welcome to my blog!

My name is Sula dePaula.

I have been an Intuitive Breath Coach and Teacher for a while now and just now felt inspired to start a blog.

The topic at the moment is intimacy because I am getting ready to teach a 2 ½ day seminar where I will be covering hot topics like intimacy, commitment and other great stuff that I will write about in the future.

I just moved from Los Angeles, To Delray Beach, South Florida. Florida was my first home since I moved from my birth land- Brazil. Even though I am still in adaptation mode to being back,  I am so excited to be teaching this weekend. I invite you to take a breath of consciousness into your intimacy behaviors and tendencies.

As I read my script and prepare to teach the Advanced Breathwork class I feel so motivated to share with you these thoughts.

Perhaps it will give you some insights on your tendencies to separate and withdraw from your loved ones. Perhaps it will just spark your interest in using your breath to create personal shifts and deeper connections. Just to be clear I am not talking about sex. One can have sexual encounters and experience zero soul intimacy. I am referring to true intimacy where you feel connected, vulnerable, transparent AND safe. It is very much possible to have these levels of intimacy with romantic partners, friends, family and God.

So what is your tolerance? Is it working for you? When is it that you begin to withdraw, shut down and separate? Are you craving for more intimacy in your life? Are you longing for more intimacy with self and the God of your heart? Dos anger or frustration come up for you to just hear the word “intimacy”? Are you running from it like a vampire runs away from a cross? :-)

What if intimacy patterns and behaviors started in the womb?

Have you ever consider that your time in your mother’s womb may have establish your blue print on intimacy?The dictionary defines Intimacy as followed; :: Genuine intimacy in human relationships requires dialogue, transparency, vulnerability and reciprocity. As a verb "intimate" means "to state or make known". The activity of intimating (making known) underpins the meanings of "intimate" when used as a noun and adjective.

When you were developing in the dark warm womb did your mother talk to you?

Did she make the pregnancy known and acknowledged you as important?

Was there reciprocity in lovingly sensing each other? Were you feeling safe or did you have to take on toxic chemicals, toxic emotions, and/or fear for your life in the womb?

If your parents did not want you or even tried to abort you Do you think that effected your ability to trust? When you came out and finally felt the air and took your first breath did you bond with the loving eyes of your parents or were you taken away to bond with warm lights in the nursery?

How do you think that all affected your ability to trust intimacy?

What if codependency started in the womb??

If the baby felt responsible for the mother’s well

being maybe he/she took on the patterns of codependency…maybe just maybe.

Take a light approach and just inquire within in silence and in truth. Does it resonate with you. Did you feel totally uncomfortable while reading this blog? The mind might trick you but your body always knows…

Stay tuned for the next topic coming soon.

It is not the purpose of breathwork to re-live or re-enact the womb/birth experience but to unravel any “blueprint” or “program” in the subconscious that is causing pain or resulting in separation and dis-ease. Breathwork creates safety in the mind, releases stagnate energy patterns in the body, resulting in more freedom and joy in your heart.

I am currently seeing clients here in South Florida.   More information please visit my contact page and let me hear from you.  

Thank you! I love you! Sula

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